Send Him Back?

This is my grandson, Caleb and I wouldn't trade him for all the money in the world. He is adopted. We consider him a SPECIAL gift from God. I could not love this little boy any more if he was my own flesh and blood. He came to us at 6 weeks of age with two black eyes and a swollen nose. The poor child had to sleep in his carrier for about a month after we got him because he could not lay down flat or he would have trouble breathing. It was definitely love at first sight when we all laid eyes on this child. My daughter knew in her heart that she was going to be his mom when she took him into her home.

Caleb is a very intelligent child. He excels in school. He is a great reader, does well in spelling and is one of the smartest first graders in science I have ever seen. Yet, Caleb does have some problems. He suffers from what they call Sensory Processing Disorder and Dyspraxia. Now you may be wondering what that is so I will give you a brief description.

Sensory Processing Disorder has two types: Sensory-Avoiding children and Sensory-Seeking children. Caleb suffers from Sensory Avoiding disorder. He tries to avoid or minimize sensations by avoiding being touched. He hates certain material and therefore won't wear certain clothes. He has fear of movement and heights, is very cautious and unwilling to take risks or try new things, feels uncomfortable in loud or busy environments such the mall, or convention centers, and is an extreme picky eater and overly sensitive to food smells and loud music. Has extreme fear of water.

Dyspraxia includes poor balance, poor fine and gross motor co-ordination, difficulty with throwing and catching a ball, poor awareness of body position in space, difficulty hopping, skipping or riding a bike, sensitive to touch, intolerance of having hair or teeth brushed, nails and hair cut, slow to learn to dress themselves, finds some clothing uncomfortable, slow to learn to speak, and very impatient.

This next statement is so true and describes my grandson so well. Children with Dyspraxia are more often above average intelligence but are often behavior immature. They try hard to fit in to socially accepted behaviour when at school but often throw tantrums when at home. They find it difficult to understand simple logic and reason.

My daughter works with Special ED children and knew from the experience of her job, that Caleb had some problems. So she took him to a neurologist. This is how we found out his diagnosis. Caleb is such a joy and delight to have in the family yet, he can be quite a handful at times. This child does have his moments, let me tell you. Are we sorry we adopted him with the problems he has and the hard times that come with his bad moments? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Someone made the comment, "To bad you just can't send him back." When I heard that, it made my blood boil. My daughter and this family would never, in a million years, even consider the thought of sending this precious child back. He is ours! God knew what He was doing when He placed Caleb in our family. My daughter's experience in working with Special Ed children has prepared her in helping Caleb. He has come along way in the past year. With the counselling he is getting and the love of his mom and the rest of the family, CALEB WILL SUCCEED.

I got to thinking about what this person had to say about sending Caleb back because of his imperfections. I would like to ask this individual how they would feel if Jesus would decide to send them back to the world because they are not perfect. I ask this individual to think about it; when they had a bad attitude or said or did the wrong thing, when they went somewhere they should not have gone, or looked down their nose at someone in a unchristian way, had an ungodly thought, or gossiped, or just simply didn't worship or pray like they should have, so Jesus turns to them and says, "That's it, you're out of here. I'm sending you back". How would they feel? I would like to ask this individual, "Do you think Jesus ever regrets taking you in and giving you His Name? I don't think so and yet, you're not perfect. You still make mistakes. You still have to hit the altar and ask for forgiveness every now and then and in spite of all of your shortcomings He still loves you and because the Lord still loves you HE WILL HELP YOU SUCCEED. Let me ask you, Do you think He should send you back?"

My daughter took Caleb into her home and gave him her name. He is her son, my grandson. We have no regrets whatsoever of taking this child in. He is ours and we love him. Send him back? NEVER!!!